Finding The Calm Within Yourself

January 14, 2017

Finding Calm within yourself.

 

1. Know your ideal self.

Make a list of all the good qualities you intend to cultivate. Are you going to be kinder, fairer, more tolerant, more magnanimous, more patient, more dignified? What are your responses to difficulties going to be? What principles do you wish to uphold?

 

2. Do the next right thing.

If you've been struggling with your emotional or mental state like I was, it may be difficult, at first, to act with integrity all the time. You may find yourself making mistakes and sometimes behaving in a less than ideal way. In order to build up a habit of sticking to your principles, just practice doing the “next right thing” all the time.

 

3. Let go of perfectionism.

I could have made my life a lot easier if I had validated the attempts I was making to do the right thing even when things were a struggle. Instead, I beat myself up and made myself feel worse because I was angry with myself for not living right. It's all a journey. Allow yourself to be imperfect, and yet still make progress.

 

4. Make amends immediately.

If for some reason you end up treating someone unfairly or unkindly, or doing something dishonest or mean, make amends for it as soon as you can. Don't wait. Correct your mistakes as soon as possible, and you can find peace of mind in the fact that you have improved upon your actions and done your part to relieve any ill feeling or guilt.

 

5. Practice patience.

Other people around you may not be living in the same way that you have chosen to. It doesn't matter; they will have their conscience to live with at the end of the day, and you will have yours. Choose to respond in a way that will give you peace of mind. Take a deep breath before reacting to people who push your buttons.

 

6. Let your head and heart support you.

You won't have a peaceful mind if you allow negativity to dominate your thinking. Try to understand others rather than judging them. Forgive others and you free yourself. Radiate compassion and be a good Samaritan. Not only will others benefit; you'll also add to your own sense of self-esteem.

 

7. Think long term.

It may be tempting to lose your rag when you're feeling angry or frustrated. But think about how you will feel about yourself and your own actions later on. Will you be happy about your behavior? Will it lead to you feeling peace of mind? If not, don't do it.

 

8. Validate yourself.

You will not get to feel that lovely sense of peace if you don't take the time to fully acknowledge it. In difficult situations, look at what you did well. If you've been struggling, notice when you make progress. At the end of each day, summarize to yourself how you've acted well and kept your integrity.

What helps you feel at peace with yourself?

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